I really, really love this, Katie. SO challenging to enact. My mother-in-law has been my "greatest teacher" in this regard, giving me oh so many opportunities to evolve! Thanks for the reminder and the prayer; I'll need it as she's coming for Christmas...
This is so on point. Bless them, Change me is a fantastic way to remind myself in these moments of judgement or stress of the how to change my mindset. You know I love the how🙏❤️thanks friend❤️
Katie, this is one of your best "Katie-isms", and a challenging one. I didn't like it when I first heard it. It didn't seem fair that I had to carry the whole weight of responsibility for the conflict. I thought there must be some exceptions. What if someone's health was at risk? You know what I mean, but I know what you mean too. Here's another -ism of yours, a "companion", so to speak, to the one you discuss in this post:
"I don't like what you're doing! I must need to change." Then you explained that, "Anything that disturbs my peace is my responsibility. Full Stop. ...if it's inside of me, it's up to me to resolve it and restore my peace." You called it self ("tough") love, requiring brutal honesty and tremendous self-discipline. Yes, that's for sure. I'm still working on it, but once you know these -isms, it's hard to go back to the blame game without feeling guilty.
I’m glad you accepted the challenge and decided to work on it. Obviously , there are exceptions to every “ism,” but ending the blame game is indeed the purpose. It ultimately puts you in the driver’s seat and brings peace of mind when you take responsibility for your own feelings, and yup, it’s that guilty feeling that keeps you on track once you are aware. Good for you!
I really, really love this, Katie. SO challenging to enact. My mother-in-law has been my "greatest teacher" in this regard, giving me oh so many opportunities to evolve! Thanks for the reminder and the prayer; I'll need it as she's coming for Christmas...
You go, brave soul!
This is so on point. Bless them, Change me is a fantastic way to remind myself in these moments of judgement or stress of the how to change my mindset. You know I love the how🙏❤️thanks friend❤️
You are very welcome! Yes, the how to helps you shift your mindset in a tricky moment.
Katie, this is one of your best "Katie-isms", and a challenging one. I didn't like it when I first heard it. It didn't seem fair that I had to carry the whole weight of responsibility for the conflict. I thought there must be some exceptions. What if someone's health was at risk? You know what I mean, but I know what you mean too. Here's another -ism of yours, a "companion", so to speak, to the one you discuss in this post:
"I don't like what you're doing! I must need to change." Then you explained that, "Anything that disturbs my peace is my responsibility. Full Stop. ...if it's inside of me, it's up to me to resolve it and restore my peace." You called it self ("tough") love, requiring brutal honesty and tremendous self-discipline. Yes, that's for sure. I'm still working on it, but once you know these -isms, it's hard to go back to the blame game without feeling guilty.
I’m glad you accepted the challenge and decided to work on it. Obviously , there are exceptions to every “ism,” but ending the blame game is indeed the purpose. It ultimately puts you in the driver’s seat and brings peace of mind when you take responsibility for your own feelings, and yup, it’s that guilty feeling that keeps you on track once you are aware. Good for you!
Thank you Katie - ‘Bless Them, Change Me’ is a really wonderful prayer to keep in mind.
You’re welcome. I hope it saves you from an argument or three.☺️
Sure need this right now! Thank you💖🙏